This is a story about emotional intelligence, so-called "weak ties," and happiness.
By Bill Murphy Jr., Founder of Understandably and contributing editor, Inc
As study directors Robert J. Waldinger and Marc Schulz put it in their book, The Good Life, citing research that goes back more than 50 years:
Casual friendships may be the most overlooked relationships we have. They neither take up the most time nor impact our lives in the most obvious ways. But there is a great deal of research into the benefits of these connections (which social scientists refer to as "weak ties"---not our favorite term since there's nothing weak about them).
These are the relationships we may not turn to when we're in distress, but that nonetheless provide us with jolts of good feeling or energy during our days, as well as a sense of connection to larger communities.
I am going to bet that you have many little interactions like this with people, that maybe you don't even think of.
Maybe it's the crossing guard or the person behind the counter where you get your morning coffee; maybe it's the person who drives the train or the bus you take to work.
Maybe it's colleagues you see on Zoom meetings, or the employee at your your company who reports on a daily basis to someone else you recruited. Maybe it's the spouse or children or siblings of other employees that you see now and then.
Maybe it's the parents of other kids on your child's sports teams or clubs, or the neighbor you say hi to but don't know especially well, or that guy you always see when you're out for a morning walk or run.
These casual relationships have real power, both to improve our lives and happiness --- and also to improve other people's lives and happiness, because we're their weak times, doing for them what they do for us.
Harvard Grant Study, and reviewing some of the writing of Mark S. Granovetter, whose 1973 article The Strength of Weak Ties, which originally got a lot of people considering these kinds of relationships, I think there are three things that people can do to improve them.
We'll call this the Crossing Guard Rule, since it was the crossing guard who inspired them.
The first is to seek and remember these relationships. They're simple; just a matter of noticing people and speaking to them.
The second is to work gratitude into the mix. Find a reason to say thank you: thank you for your time; thank you for your work today; thank you for walking into the crosswalk wearing your orange vest and carrying your STOP sign to get the traffic to stop.
And finally, notice when people thank you, and even imagine them saying so if they don't.
Remember, the golden key to this whole thought process for me was the realization that any job, and probably any life, would be better if it involved being thanked for doing what you do dozens or hundreds of times per day.
Next time look around at your fellow softball players in practice and during games, in the dugout or the parking lot. Be thankful for the "weak ties" and the relationships through softball you have.
Thank you for reading.
OP
Well, hydration involves not just fluid balance, but also retention; meaning the beverage's benefits aren't quickly lost due to urination. Nutrients in milk like fat, lactose (aka milk sugar), and sodium (aka salt) contribute to its ability to stay in the body longer, and thus provide more hydration. Sodium, in particular, is an electrolyte — the body's most common one, according to the Cleveland Clinic — and electrolytes are notably helpful in terms of maintaining our bodily fluid balance.
Proper hydration, of course, is critical for many body functions. We feel better and think better when our bodies are properly hydrated, notes the Harvard School of Public Health, and hydration also
plays an important role in maintaining our body temperature, and in providing needed nutrition to our cells. Water, traditionally, is the beverage recommended for this needed hydration.
Water isn't the only beverage we drink, and other options can also be very useful in helping us stay hydrated. As the Mayo Clinic points out, one of the reasons milk and orange juice are so hydrating is that they're composed mostly of water. Both milk and orange juice, in fact, have a water content of nearly 90%.
Not all beverages are quite so hydrating, however, despite high water contents. Sugary sodas, for example, may seem hydrating in the short term, but they cause water loss long-term. That's because water is needed to help your body process the sugars. Coffee and teas, by contrast, are more hydrating, particularly when a little milk is added to offset caffeine's diuretic qualities. Diuretics, which remove water from the body through frequent urination, can actually be dehydrating, as is the case with alcohol.Both milk (skim and whole) and orange juice proved more hydrating than water by this standard, with better measurements up to four hours after consumption. After adjusting for
water content, however, only milk was clearly more hydrating.
"This study tells us much of what we already knew," noted dietician Melissa Majumdar in CNN Health. "Electrolytes — like sodium and potassium — contribute to better hydration, while calories
in beverages result in slower gastric emptying and therefore slower release of urination."
That doesn't mean, however, that we should be relying on milk rather than water for the bulk of our hydration. Milk, despite its excellent hydration qualities, also has a lot of calories and carbohydrates. But it can be a great way to recover from high-intensity workouts.
Not only is water not the most efficient beverage in terms of hydration, but it's also possible to drink too much of it. That's because our kidneys can only process so much water each day. In fact, an overabundance of water can actually lead to serious medical issues, per the Mayo Clinic. Typically
, the kidneys can process up to 28 liters of water each day, notes Medical News Today. But there's a limit to how much they can get rid of over the course of an hour. So if you drink more than one liter each hour, it's not healthy.
Of course, our hydration levels also need to be balanced with our nutritional levels, and water
has the benefit of having zero calories. That's not the case with milk or orange juice, which despite their superb short-term hydration effects, cannot be consumed — at least healthily — in anywhere near the quantity of water. So although water may not be the best beverage for hydration from an efficiency standpoint, it's still the one we should be drinking more than any other, points out UC Davis Health.
Copied from an articel featured in Food Science
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GENERAL MEMBERSHIP MEETING MINUTES
May 19, 2023
Call to order – Walt Bruschi – 10:10 AM
Commissioners Opening Remarks
Reading of last minutes – Denny K
Motion to approve minutes as read. Seconded. Motion Passed
Treasurer’s Report – Jeff H
Proposed Budget for 2023-2024 – Jeff H
Old Business
Passed.
Make-up dates – Discussion.Would poll membership to see if feasible and what day.
Monday was mentioned as a possible day of make-up
Amendment III to by-laws – Females from 55 to 50.Clarification of supplemental drafts.
Non-drafted players can substitute, possibility of being drafted later, or refund paid dues.
Motion made.Seconded.Passed
New Business
Medical release statement in waiver/liability form.Must present a medical release to full
participation if three consecutive weeks missed. Motion made.Seconded.Passed
Elections of deputy commissioner and treasurer.Motion made to elect Nick Cozzo as deputy
Commissioner and Jeff Holden as treasure.Seconded.Motion passed
Open Discussion
Adjournment – 12:02 pm
WANT TO SPONSOR A TEAM IN A SENIOR SOFTBALL LEAGUE? NTBSS
The NTBSS (North Tampa Bay Senior Softball) slow pitch league starts its 12th season this fall! Games start at 8:30 AM at the Land O’Lakes/Hwy 41 Pasco Heritage Park Complex with the first game on Friday Sept. 08. Our season lasts to April 26, 2024, culminating with the playoffs. $80 dues pay for the season, and includes two shirts.
Age requirements: MEN: 60 or older; WOMEN 50 or older before April 26, 2024. Emphasis of the league is FUN, FITNESS, and SAFE PLAY!
Become a sponsor for $300.00 for the season. We display your name on our sponsor banner, your name will be part of one of the teams, and we will have a sponsor day for you to come to the games and display your wares, give away hand-outs, business cards, AND have an opportunity to play one inning for your team. Give us a link on our website (ntbss.net) which will direct our members to your website.
Contact Walt @ 330-701-0646 or Nick @813-917-4828
MINUTES OF QUARTERLY MEMBERSHIP MEETING 4/7/2023
The meeting was called to order by Commissioner Walt Bruschi at 10:05 AM
1. First order of business – Reading of the previous minutes of the general meeting on 12/27/2022
2. The minutes were accepted… A motion was made, seconded, and the motion passed.
3. Commission Report – Robert’s Rule of Order were reviewed. Commissioner reported that the league is thriving, that of course, mistakes were made, but we will move forward and make the league stronger next year. Commissioner Bruschi personally takes responsibility for the actions of the board and the league. “The buck stops here with me” And he mentioned that be part of the solution, not just to point out the problem. “Come to the table with solutions”
4. The treasurer’s report was read by Treasurer Jeff Holden. We have $3493.74 on account. He estimated that we will need approximately $800.00 for the year end cookout and any additional expense for the shirt printing will depend upon whether or not we get a sponsor to cover the cost. The shirts cost $4 each and two color printing will be $6.00 per shirt, a significant savings over previous years. The blue shirt remains the same but the away jersey will be more silver in color. All of this was made possible by Randy Johnson. The membership were made aware of copies of the proposed logos to be viewed later. The Secretary was asked to email out the photos of the proposed logos at a later date.
5. Under old business, the home plate mat was discussed and the mat will not be used since there is not method of conveyance to move the mat from the field to the shed. At this point, Dave Bair suggested that the strike mat be coated with astro-turf to minimize slippage. He will prepare one of the strike mats for the annual meeting on May 19. There was some discussion as to why we don’t use Collier for our games (equipment to handle the mat) but the extreme sun in the morning, and that the shed was built at Heritage ended that discussion.
6. Under old business, the use of the smaller pitcher’s screen was discussed by OP Parrish, Committee Coordinator. Screen is working well. Allows for more possible hits from batters due to the smaller size but also emphasizes the need for the pitcher to remain behind the screen.
7. Nick Cozzo (Deputy Commissioner) made a pitch for more sponsors and that R.I.P.A is still a viable possibility for covering the costs of the shirts and the printing.
8. Steve Shapiro asked if there was a flyer so that it can be taken to potential sponsors. Secretary Denny Kato said he would develop one and email as an attachment so that members could print and take to sponsors.
9. Gerry Connolly suggested a ‘Sponsor Day’, where the sponsors could come and display their wares. It was also suggested that the sponsors could possibly play and inning on that day to help in their participation with the league.
10. Nick mentioned that all of the sponsors will be invited to the year ending banquet.
11. The sponsor’s banner is on display weekly at each game and is also posted on the website.
12. Under new business, Secretary Denny Kato made a plea for the members to solicit more females for our league. Nancy Silverwood mentioned that the correct term for our league is a ‘mixed league’ vs ‘coed’ which is totally different concept. It was mentioned at this time that an amendment would be submitted to change the by-laws to allow females fifty and over to participate in our league.
13. Under new business, Jim McCausey asked that Board meeting notes be made ‘public’. The board response was that there are issues that are discussed during the board meeting that would prematurely cause discussion before the issues were brought up at the general meeting. After discussion, it was decided to table the discussion until the May 19 meeting. Those with suggestions were asked to submit them in writing. A vote is expected on this matter at the annual meeting.
14. Under new business – Dave Perez tabled his discussion of changes to the 2023-2024 until the May 19 meeting. All business pertaining to the new season is to be discussed then, including the proposed budget, schedule dates, postponements, etc.
15. Under new business – Nancy Silverwood pointed out that the Amendment dated August 6, 2021 states ‘Only drafted players are invited to play’. The entire amendment was read to the membership. The board response was that they unaware of the amendment wording, but that the board acted in good faith to handle the unprecedented amount of new players that were generated by the Laker News article and the Bay News Nine video profile. Denny K responded that fourteen players have been added to the team rosters post draft, with an additional four players in reserve. The board called the adding of the new players a ‘continuing supplemental draft’, which would satisfy the working of the amendment. All additions were done at the request of the managers based upon the need of the team. One team forfeited two games and almost a third. The board reiterated that all additions were approved by the board unanimously each time. There were several suggestions about mandating players from the available pool when a team goes below the set number on the roster. However, this discussion was tabled until the May 19 and all with suggestions were asked to submit them in writing to the board by OP.
16. Under new business – Lester Gregory mentioned increasing the team rosters to fifteen which would help minimize substitutes at the games. He pointed out that the substitutes can unduly effect the game This discussion was tabled until the May 19 meeting since it involved next season.
17. Under new business – Les Gregory declined to discuss the issue about umpires at this time.
18. Under new business, Deputy Commissioner Nick Cozzo discussed the year ending banquet, the menu and what would be provided by the league. He also requested additional grills, coolers, and COOKS to help with the work. The larger meeting room will be used at Heritage and the courtyard outside will be for the cooking. Anyone wishing to bring dessert or any other item were encouraged to do so. Member families were welcomed as were this year’s sponsors. The difficulty with negotiating with Hungry Harry’s BBQ and the membership participation were reasons cited for this change.
19. The meeting was adjourned at 11:23 am after a motion to adjourn was made, seconded and passed.
For years, the committee has discussed plays involving runners who hesitate near the commitment line. These runners often slide a foot across the line just before being tagged, which allows the runner to be called safe. Under the new rule, a runner still is committed to going home after touching or crossing the commitment line. But now, defenders may still tag the runner until both of the runner’s feet have touched or crossed the line. This should make it more difficult for runners to entice a “safe” tag, as they will be out if tagged after sliding only one foot across the line.
The committee also tweaked its rule involving plays made on the batter-runner at first base. Previously, the defense had to use the white portion of the double base to record an out on the batter-runner. Players complained that if the ball took them into foul ground, they could become involved in a collision while trying to reach the white portion of the base. To prevent these collisions, the committee adopted the USA Softball rule. On plays where the force out is being attempted from the foul side of the baseline (such as on an errant throw or bobbled ball), the defense and offense may use either the white or orange portion of the base.
NTBSS has adopted the following rule change to our leeague.
We were filmed and interviewed for a video profile on Bay News Nine. Linda McCaffrey Marsonek will be featured. We will post the link when it is available
NTBSS made the end of year sports stories in the Laker Lutz News. Here's the link to the story:
https://lakerlutznews.com/lln/?s=senior+softball
GENERAL MEMBERSHIP MEETING 4TH QTR 2022
December 27, 2022
1. The meeting was called to order at 10:17 AM by Commissioner Walt Bruschi
2. The treasurer’s report was read by Jeff Holden:
a. We have $5683.94 in our account
b. Randy Johnson was authorized to purchase 50 of our shirts, both colors, at $4.00 apiece. We are actively looking to reprint the shirts with a new logo. (Design will be submitted by the membership and voted on)
c. Upcoming expenses - $960 for field prep and rental because of expected 8 days of refunds (to be credited to our next payment) due to rainouts and a request to change by Heritage to Collier.
d. We have a $100 Florida Sunbiz Registration and 990 tax filing.
e. We are still finalizing the details of our end of year banquet. We are negotiating with Harry W to repeat what we did last year.
3. Old Business
a. The Laker/Lutz news article was a huge success last year. Walt will be meeting with the reporter to run the article again in late spring, early summer, so we can generate interest early in time for the draft. We are expecting the same results in interest and can expect to see seven or possibly eight teams next season.
b. The veer rule was revisited and discussed. (reference to Dave Meadows)
4. New Business
a. We will be experimenting with a smaller pitcher’s screen. It will provide more hitting area for the batters but more exposure to the pitchers. There is no expense for the net as it is on permanent loan We will try the new net for a month. (reference to Dave Meadows for enforcement of this rule)
b. We are losing game balls. Therefore, we are asking the umpires to retrieve the balls after each game and the 3rd game umpire should be giving four balls to the NTBSS official after the game. These balls should be going into our practice cache but are adding to the league’s expenses. (Reference to Dave Meadows)
c Because the tractor is no longer available at Heritage, the homeplate mat has become a logistical issue. A motion was introduced Gene Castillo, seconded, and passed to remove the mat for a period of a month (or longer) if the tractor does not return. The field prep will now include chalked batter’s boxes
d. Fluorescent markers will be applied to the new pitcher’s screen at the six foot level to help the home plate umpire judge the flat pitch. It was general consensus of the meeting that the flat pitch was not being called often enough.
e. A discussion of the use of a 12ft PVC pole was discussed to help with the high pitch but there was not a motion to try it.
f. Game field prep will now include coaches’ boxes
g. A motion was introduced by Nancy Silverwood to allow the substitute players 1st priority to play in Friday’s games. Those players are Ben High, Dave Sparano, Rey Suarez, Ron Scarborough and Tommy Portelli. If necessary, a player pool of these same substitute players will be conducted. If unattached new substitutes play in a game but wish to play in additional games, they will go into the general substitute pool without priority. The motion was seconded and passed.
h. Rod Rodriguez commented on the job that the umpires do and should be respected for them being volunteers. Those who object should step and volunteer to be umpires if they wish to participate. Discussions with the umpires should be conducted by the manager and/or assistant manager only.
i. A motion to adjourn the meeting was introduced, seconded, and passed.